It’s good to have spies.

Btw, I am more charming in person, just fyi.

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I will cop to responding before having had caffeine, and we’ll call it a wash. And btw - I’ll take your word for it.

COMMON ladies. WTF? Life is SHORT, BRUTAL, UGLY, DIRTY, unfair, hard… etc. Thanks for the reminder.

I do understand, I can empathize. Been there. You know what? Whatever!

Jealousy is an easy emotion to fall into an endless loop that leads to self-loathing, anger, and fear. It sucks! It can be a very damaging. SO STOP IT.

I love how emotional you all are. I don’t think us guys will ever really understand how intense and present your emotions can make you feel inside. How they can massively motivate you all into action.. as well as how they can also utterly fail you.

So.. knowing this, it is even more critical to put things into -perspective-. These EXs are getting married?? Just like that huh? Smells of desperation. Fuck thaaaat. You don’t want guys like that.

The second you start thinking negatively like this, cut it. DO SOMETHING to shift your mind out of it. Go to the gym. Watch a movie. Do some work. Flirt with a neighbor you never spoke before. Maybe fuck ‘em if he’s cool. Anything, die your hair. Whatever you do, do it intensely, like it may be the last time you ever do it.

Because life -IS- short and one day it will be over. So you can sit there… bitchin’ a moanin’ together all about whatever OTHER people have that you don’t have… OR you get refocused on living, NOW. RIGHT NOW.

It’s a choice. The more you choose to think and be in the NOW, the easier it gets. Conversely the more you chose think externalities, the what ifs, or the I wish I hads (I especially dislike those), or the why mes… you know what I mean, the harder it gets to flip that script.

So please.. do it for me.. damnit. If I run into the five or six of you out there, and you’re all echoing negativity, its just going to make my job of hittin’ on the five of you… needlessly harder. You are all lucky I got a thing for bitchy women.

Hope that helps.

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While I appreciate the sentiment behind what I imagine you are attempting to say… you need to back off a bit. First of all, for a pickup artist, you sure are kind of repellent. And second of all, a little understanding would go a long way here. Instead of being an ass about it, how about realizing how common this is and attempting to be understanding? Clearly this is a common experience and your attempt to be humorous about it is falling rather flat in my not so humble opinion. a little understanding would go a long way here. And who knows… you might actually learn something about women.

And by the way? Calling us bitchy is not endearing, will not get you any ass, and might get you thrown out of the joint should it become a habit. Just sayin’.

If you think it would help, ask him to stop contacting you. He’s got another fiancee and _he’s her problem now._ Whatever he needs a woman for, tell him he should ask her.

You underestimate me. I asked for that a year ago, in January when they moved in, and again in September. When he proved he could not leave me alone? I blocked him. It’s not the contact that gets me, it is simply the knowledge that he is engaged and happy. If that makes sense.

(Not that I begrudge him or her happiness. Just that it’s unfair that I cannot have the same after all he did to me.)

AS you can see here, you’re not alone. None of us are.

oh yes. i know that feeling too. i say that i am the only one who got the short end of the crappy stick. it’s been especially hard since the ex’s girlfriend finally left her husband and he has been especially happy since. sometimes i really hate that life isnt fair!

it’s true, you aren’t alone. even though it certainly feels that way at times.

I try to remind myself that their happiness doesn’t have any relation to mine. But sometimes doesn’t it just feel like they’re taking an unfair chunk of happy from the world and denying deserving people?

Hang in there.

We all need to find the strength to let go. I just wish I knew how.

Of course I have no way of knowing if they are truly happy. But #2 sure does appear to be. Which is nauseating at best.

(((hugs)))

Take comfort in the fact that it sure as hell beats the alternative.

Oh I know he is. Pain in the butt won’t stop contacting me. I actually had to block him on Facebook. Seriously.