Comments on: What would you believe? http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2009/10/09/what-would-you-believe/ Dating losers so you don't have to! Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:49:07 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Brenda http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2009/10/09/what-would-you-believe/comment-page-1/#comment-7047 Brenda Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:22:45 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=361#comment-7047 Your friend needs to walk away and never.look.back. If he decides he misses her and he was wrong about his assessment of whether he loved her, he needs to pursue her. Until then, she needs to believe what he just told her and move.on. <strong><em>The thing is, he has been pursuing her hardcore ever since. I think maybe he scared them both. But still, I refrain from making judgment calls for her.</strong></em> Your friend needs to walk away and never.look.back. If he decides he misses her and he was wrong about his assessment of whether he loved her, he needs to pursue her. Until then, she needs to believe what he just told her and move.on.

The thing is, he has been pursuing her hardcore ever since. I think maybe he scared them both. But still, I refrain from making judgment calls for her.

]]> By: Red http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2009/10/09/what-would-you-believe/comment-page-1/#comment-6911 Red Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:58:05 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=361#comment-6911 I'm usually a sniveling romantic rather than a cynic, but I know too well that men aren't angels. (Not that women are.) I would believe that there was a shiny object that came into his orbit and then either he realized it wasn't going to happen or found out something that made her less shiny. I hope she finds the strength to do what's right for her. Neither staying nor going is looking easy or fun at the moment. I’m usually a sniveling romantic rather than a cynic, but I know too well that men aren’t angels. (Not that women are.) I would believe that there was a shiny object that came into his orbit and then either he realized it wasn’t going to happen or found out something that made her less shiny. I hope she finds the strength to do what’s right for her. Neither staying nor going is looking easy or fun at the moment.

]]> By: Juggle Jane http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2009/10/09/what-would-you-believe/comment-page-1/#comment-6909 Juggle Jane Fri, 09 Oct 2009 14:33:37 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=361#comment-6909 I think your gut knows. If him saying he wasn't in love with her, suddenly explained a lot and made some things make sense, then it sounds like she knew. I wouldn't believe him but I would agree with him that she would be much happier without him. <strong><em>Unless of course she had panicked herself into creating those situations where they didn't exist. (Hey, I'm just sayin'!) She does suffer from chronic indigestion though. Her gut might be confused too. ;)</strong></em> I think your gut knows. If him saying he wasn’t in love with her, suddenly explained a lot and made some things make sense, then it sounds like she knew.

I wouldn’t believe him but I would agree with him that she would be much happier without him.

Unless of course she had panicked herself into creating those situations where they didn’t exist. (Hey, I’m just sayin’!) She does suffer from chronic indigestion though. Her gut might be confused too. ;)

]]> By: The Bare Essentials Today http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2009/10/09/what-would-you-believe/comment-page-1/#comment-6907 The Bare Essentials Today Fri, 09 Oct 2009 12:19:56 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=361#comment-6907 I actually had this happen to me. He said he loved me, we lived together. Then one day, out of the blue, he just came home and said that he couldn't see himself spending the rest of his life with me and it was over. Just like that. If he had changed his mind and taken it back, I wouldn't believe. I think first thoughts are usually what they are really feeling. I think he felt bad he said, tried to take it back but really meant it. <strong><em>I don't know how to respond to these really since I'm a bit removed. I can only say that must've really sucked. Sorry to hear it.</strong></em> I actually had this happen to me. He said he loved me, we lived together. Then one day, out of the blue, he just came home and said that he couldn’t see himself spending the rest of his life with me and it was over. Just like that.

If he had changed his mind and taken it back, I wouldn’t believe. I think first thoughts are usually what they are really feeling. I think he felt bad he said, tried to take it back but really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond to these really since I’m a bit removed. I can only say that must’ve really sucked. Sorry to hear it.

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