Good Timing
September 14th, 2009
You all know I don’t necessarily prescribe to ideas of so-called dating experts and the like. However, you also know that when I manage to let my guard down, I am capable of recognizing the good someone else can do for me. Maybe even let in a new idea or two.
And so it is, without much other explanation, that I will tell you I stumbled across this article this morning. And I think I really needed to see that.
Sometimes my own worst enemy is just me.
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You know what? I think that we are all often our own worst enemies…
I concur. But if we recognize that, at least we can work on it, right? Hope… there’s always hope.
Thanks for sharing that article. Well said and I needed that reinforcement, myself.
Nothing wrong with comfortable, stable, consistent relationships.
Enjoy the simplicity of it and the lack of drama!
Exactly!
Wow. that article is fascinating. i personally have an issue ending relationships when they arent bad. after having been through some absolutely terrible ones, it feels downright wrong to end something when the other person treats me well and cares about me, even if i know the passion isnt there and never will be. im terrified i will end up married to mediocrity and slightly less than happy forever. is it worth it? should i find my happiness in the fact that im loved and cared for?
For me, the point of that article isn’t to convince people to sacrifice passion completely. It’s still an important element to a romantic relationship. The point is that the passion doesn’t have to be off the charts for the person to be an ideal match for you. It has to be present, but doesn’t have to be crazy. Comfort is important too.
I’m in a relationship (also for almost a year) and this is something I struggle with, too. Passion versus comfort.
I relate a lot to your journey with LC, because it strangely mirrors my own relationship.
And I, too, am my own worst enemy.
This was a really good article, so thank you for posting it.
Then maybe you can benefit from the two points that hit home the most to me. The first was that unhappiness in a relationship is often more about your own unhappiness with life than it is about your relationship. And the second is to consider if your life is better with or without your partner. Personally, I’d hate to imagine a life without LC. I’d miss him and us far too much.
I must agree with mommasunshine.