Big Changes – Part 1
LC and I have been heading towards this for a while. And honestly, I’m not even sure that one of us was more anxious for it than the other. Maybe one of us was more vocal, but then someone has to be to get it started. However, in the end, it was a mutual kind of decision.
LC and I decided we are really just friends.
At the end of the day, I wasn’t meeting his needs. He felt I was distant and not letting him into my life. I felt like I could never meet his needs but would always be reminded of that. Neither one of us was actually happy but yet we kept trying.
We kept trying because we care about each other. We kept trying because we wished it could work. We kept trying because maybe we could make a go of it. But in the end, no amount of trying could make it something it wasn’t. And eventually we both got tired until one of us simply said “I think I quit.”
After it was out there, we both knew we were on the same page. It was a relief to have it in the open. It was a weight off of both of our shoulders. We were free to be honest again.
LC and I have decided to keep the best parts of what we were to each other. That includes all of the fun, probably some dinners out, and a great friendship. We will just split the check at dinner from now on and always wear pants. And life will go on.
I am genuinely relieved to have it all out in the open. In the end, I will miss the other things he was. I will miss all of the truly great dinners out. I will miss the physical affection. I will miss always having someone to go experience things with. I will miss romance. I will miss being half of a whole. But while I am wistful, I know that it was definitely for the best. And I am grateful to have kept my friend.
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you totally gave it your best, tried for more even when you thought it would end up like this. sometimes we really are just meant to keep our pants on.
We both tried and put in more effort than we should have. It couldn’t be helped.
For what it’s worth, I think you’ve made the right decision. I was where you are a few years ago and “my LC” is now one of my dearest friends.
I do hope LC and I make friendship work. I’ve never seen that happen firsthand, so I’m not exactly optimistic. But I’m hopeful.
I’ll miss the stories for sure. I guess it’s a good thing because the two of your were able to be civil about the whole thing. Good on you both.
We care about each other and we both knew it was the right thing.
I know this wasn’t an easy decision by any means. I’m proud of you for handling everything with such grace. It’s truly my privilege to call you my friend. ((((hugs))))
You are an awesome friend hon. Right back atcha!
Hey Twitter Friend!
I’ve been reading through your posts for the last couple of days now, and have been simultaneously amused, educated, chastened at my own hapless dating behaviour (which sometimes resembles that of your Gentlemen Callers) and, of course, greatly entertained… you write extremely well.
Just thought I would say hi, given that you seem to have had a rough couple of days. Keep your chin up. :7
Well hi there and glad to have ya! We all do stupid things sometimes so don’t worry. Just look through this blog to see some of my own doozies. and I’ll be just fine, no worries. Back to my old sarcastic self in no time.
I think you both gave this a really big effort, and attempted to do all the right things to make it work.
It just didn’t. Sometimes that just happens. No harm no foul. You got a great friend out of it.
That’s how I feel about this. It’s not a matter of blame for one party or the other. It just didn’t work. Some things just don’t.
I’m glad you guys were able to come to a mutual decision. HOpefully the friendship works out!
Here’s hoping!
I’m all for the friendship route when the emotional attachment isn’t so strong that it sucks me back into the bad patterns.
I’m friends with almost all of my exes and some of them have even continued to bring positive goodies into my life like wisdom, new friends, advice, companionship, encouragement and fun dinners. I’m betting you and LC will end up in that category.
I hope so. I really do care about him and I’d hate to lose him from my life.
Best of luck, JW.
Thanks.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out with LC, but glad to read that it ended friendly.
I’m looking forward to your next adventures!! Get out there and get some!! XOXO
I’ll show you an adeventure all right. Just read the next entry.
I’m a new reader so not entirely caught up on the history, but I have definitely been in your shoes. Sometimes, love just isn’t enough no matter how hard you try or want it. But – it’s great that you can keep your friend. It’s not an easy road, but I do believe that exes can stay friends. Good luck!
Thanks, and glad to have you here!