Going to bed earlier didn’t change that particular outcome. And to answer your question, I’m not sure.

Yeah, that wouldn’t and didn’t work. He leaves later than me so it didn’t matter how long I took at his place. The last thing I did before I left was to wake him up and he still got to work early.

It just snowballs. I get antsy about her not being out of bed and me not being able to blast the television news while I’m showering. This then makes me feel selfish and guilty. And so in the course of being awake for 10 minutes, I’ve managed to feel a little resentful, anxious, selfish and guilty.

WTF. Not a great way to start the day.

-R.

That is it EXACTLY. Like, right down to the television news. You are my people.

I’ll get used to the routine… just as soon as I move in with someone. Until then? I am resistant.

My first suggestion was to share a key – The Editor has a key to my apt and lets himself in at night on his regular mid-week sleep over nights since I’m usually already in bed. I’m a light sleeper so I normally wake up when he comes in, but him having a key stops me from having to get out of bed and open the door for him. He comes in, crawls in bed, tells me about his day, then we curl up and drift off.

We also have the benefit (at least concerning sleep overs) of working alternate shifts. I’m a mon-fri 8-5 girl and he works Fri-Tue 1pm-10pm, so he snoozes while I get up and get ready for work, I kiss him bye when I head to work and leave him snuggled in my bed, then he gets up an hour later, showers, gets ready and locks up behind himself when he leaves.

The alternate shift makes it difficult for us to spend much time together – I’m off weekends, he works weekends, so his wed and thur nights off are the only evenings we get to really see each other – which is one reason we scheduled a regular mid-week sleep over, so we could just be together more.

The first few times we both slept badly because we wanted to cuddle all night, which is good for an hour or two, but then you want to move to your normal sleeping positions, after a while though you just get into a routine – snuggle for a bit at bed time, then roll over to your side and sleep how you normally do, then he wakes up with me in the morning so we can snuggle some more before I get up to get ready for work and he goes back to sleep.

Not sure any of this helps you because it sounds like you and LC are on similar schedules, but for me personally – I sleep better knowing Matthew is there… even if he is snoring on the other side of the bed lol.

I won’t even leave a hairdryer at his place, there is totally no key-sharing going on here.

Now, onto this. I am the outlier here. I have completely rearranged my sleep patterns for men I adore. I’m not suggesting that that’s the right thing to do or that anyone else do it, but that it seems like the natural choice for me. I will start waking up earlier, going to sleep later, going to sleep earlier, live on no sleep except for the weekends… I’m just so much happier when I’m sharing my bed with someone (and that includes all the nooky I can get).

Well, honestly that depends on your version of making it work. I’d more realitically say that right now we’re trying to make it work.

Hold on just a second here… there certainly doesn’t have to be a sleepover in order to get weekday nookie. At least, not in my world.

I know this doesn’t make a dent in the sharing the bathroom thing in the morning, but taking a shower together is very nice and accomplishes part of the issue. However, I know it can also elongate the shower time! I’m just offering ideas to try!

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Actually we did that (or didn’t, as the case may be) the last time he stayed over mid-week. Alas, I still slept badly, got up early, and ran late to work.

As for the sleepovers, I am the exact same way. When I am working outside the home, the morning routine is down to a science, and the chaos and sleep deprivation of a “morning after” detract from the warm-fuzzy residue of the previous night. This is compounded by the fact that I am NOT a morning person. I don’t know of any easy solution, but consider it practice for living together since you’ll definitely have to adjust if he ever moves in!

First of all, you just gave me a heart attack. second, if he actually lived here, he wouldn’t get up with me. He’d simply sleep through the whole morning. That would be easier, believe it or not.

I like when people don’t blame me.