Taking it back
Ever say something so awful that the moment you calm down you wish you could take it back? You just want to snatch the words out of the air and make them disappear. You want to erase their effect on whoever you said them to. You wish you could rewind time and make it not happen.
But the bottom line is that once you’ve said something, especially something like “I want to break up because I think we’re not sexually compatible” it’s out there. You can never make it not have happened. There is no undo button. So, I assume, like most of us probably do, that the damage is done and can’t be undone.
And while that is true, the damage is indeed done… maybe it can be undone a little after all. Maybe sometimes, you can backtrack just enough to start to repair what your words have caused. Maybe those words can even be a catalyst for change.
LC did not give up. I broke up with him but he never gave up. It felt wrong to both of us on many levels and for many reasons. It was not good. And so, we decided to try again. Just a few days after I had said those words to LC, I was able to take some of it back. Was it the right thing? I don’t know. But this past week has felt much better than those one or two horrible days did. And so, we continue to try.
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You are very brave and strong. Most people would just curl up and cry for a few days after that break up.
At least that’s what I did when faced with a similar situation, years ago.
Keep up posted. I can’t wait to hear how it all works out.
I think LC was much braver. No matter how I put it, he heard “you suck in bed” and came back anyway.
What did you want to take back? And why?
I think you were honest, and I think he deserved to know, hard as it might have been to hear.
I wish you the best is working it out!
Perhaps the “I’m breaking up with you” part. Maybe the rest could have been said without that out in front, you know?
This gave me tingles. I don’t know why, but the two of you together just seems good and right. And he is so strong for trying again and moving past what you said.
I’m banking on it being the way I present him here. Whether or not he’s truly for me, I believe LC is honestly a really great man and I’m betting you can tell that rather easily. Even if I don’t say it directly often enough.
I think it takes a lot to be in his shoes in this transaction. I don’t think I’d be as strong in his shoes. I’m grateful for him.
I hope it works out well for the two of you!
Thanks… me too!
Interesting. Hopefully you 2 can work through it all.
Well, we shall see.
I’m happy to hear it. Fingers crossed!
Here’s hoping.
It is weird that I would read this after just “unsending” some emails. I tend to call people on BS & just now I took it back(unsending) because while what I say isn’t nasty, it is true- some people don’t like any truth but the fake one they project- and so to them it sounds nasty, plus then they’ll explain to you forever that they were the wronged party. Am I making any sense? LOL. So yeah, you can take it back, if it is in email.
~Mary
Alas, I looked him right in the eye as I broke up with him. An email would have made for much less fuss, I’m sure.
I for one, am excited for you. A new road, so to speak darlin!
At least trying it out a bit. And hoping.
I’m jumping with joy. One for the good guys. Keep up the good work LC.
I only get involved with good guys. Well, at least NOW.