Newsflash
Update on the situation:
No change. I know, I know… but seriously. No change. Friday we met at his place and went out for dinner, then went back to his apartment with the bottle of wine I brought and just settled in. We talked for a long time, then finally switched on the movie we had discussed. At that point I thought we were finally heading somewhere. I mean, he scootched over on the couch and put his arm around me. It was progress! So I cuddled up against him and we watched. And we watched, and we watched. At 1 AM I was finally too tired to be true and had to excuse myself. He walked me down to the car, hugged me tightly, and kissed me…
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… on the cheek. I got in my car, waited until he was out of sight, and banged my head repeatedly on the steering wheel. Because seriously, who kisses you on the cheek? Your grandmother, that’s who. Not the guy you’ve gone out with four times.
We went out again on Sunday, because apparently I am just that foolish. No kiss at all that time, cheek or otherwise. So I would like to note now, for the record, that I have been out with this man five times… FIVE TIMES… and he has kissed me once on the cheek.
Last night I totally called him on it. And by totally I mean vaguely. And by called him on it, I mean initiated an awkward conversation over IM. I just kind of asked if he was just wanting to be friends or was looking for something more or what because I was confused. Then we hedged around each other for a few minutes and both admitted we weren’t sure what we were doing after all. Then he comes out with “I did kiss you the other night…” And it was everything I could do not to type “ON THE CHEEK!!!”. (I shrieked it out loud instead. Yay for IMs.) Then we each had to step away for a few minutes and when we returned, he just gleefully changed the subject and I let him.
Then he asked me out again. Seriously. Back to his place for dinner in and another movie. I am stymied. I no longer have any clue what this means. I may only be going just to create more fodder for this blog so as to amuse you further. Because seriously, I couldn’t even make this up.
Five dates, one grandmotherly kiss on the cheek. It’s worse than high school, I swear.
PS – I refuse to give him his nickname until he kisses me. It has been picked out for like a week now and I am not letting him have it until he earns it. Otherwise he will remain that guy who didn’t kiss me. So there.
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So – you asked him why he didn’t kiss you – and he dodged the QUESTION? Bizarre…
I say give it just one more chance. And then call it friends.
Well no. I asked him if he was just aiming to be friends and he said he didn’t know. I lack the intestinal fortitude to just be all “So why haven’t you kissed me. No no… on the lips, I mean.”
I agree with the camp that thinks he’s got major baggage. He just sounds like he’s totally lacking confidence but he’s really into you. What exactly is his dating history?? I’d guess he’s either just out of a really serious relationship…
You’d guess right. A marriage even.
This moron is just pissing me off now. Just sayin’….
If I didn’t kinda like him, I’d have killed him myself.
I still think he is in the closet
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I mean, it’s possible. The grandma kiss certainly supports your theory.
Well clearly he has an issue but maybe he invited you over this time for a major shag-fest. It’s possible.
That would be sad for him as I am definitely not putting out. A little smooching would be all good though.
So you’re going out with the 40 year old virgin? Honestly since you have nothing to lose just ask him to his face “what the hells up?”
Well, he’s definitely not a virgin.
This kinda happened to me, but I actually was in High School at the time.
And that high school guy probably made a move faster than this dude will.
It’s time to speak your mind, girlie. Don’t hedge around, because now you know, doing THAT made you more confused than you were before.
Nope, I’ve decided if it will really take making myself massively uncomfortable to move this along, then it isn’t going to work anyway. So one more chance to pony up a move and then I start turning down invitations. Plain and simple.
You are one stubborn lady. Even my five year old budges more easily than you.
Yes but I’m bigger than her. It’s to be expected.
Wow, if I were in your shoes, since he dodged the topic with you on the IM, I’m thinking that after this next date if he doesn’t either kiss you or let you know why he is taking it soooo slow then I’d definitely not go out with him anymore.
Major red flags going up everywhere!
I will most likely do just that. Kind of a shame as I really do enjoy being with him. But, and so it goes. We shall see.
I’m kinda confused. Why all the hubbub about not getting a kiss- it’s only been a few dates. Whatever happened to taking it slow, being friends first, then taking it further once you’ve decided you think it could go further? Maybe I’m a prude.
But I did date a guy once who would NEVER kiss me- obviously that man had issues.
But seriously, I HATE first kisses- they are so awkward that I will avoid them as long as possible!
But if he is recently divorced (how long?), then THAT is probably the reason…Is he just getting back into dating? How long was he married? Sometimes these newly divorced guys are scared- for oh, so many reasons.
Wow, I mean…. just wow. First of all, dating is also partly about chemistry. That’s the difference between someone I date and the guys I am just friends with. So it helps to know if any chemistry exists and kissing is a perfect way to determine that. It’s not like I suggested we bed down together, it’s just a little smooching.
As for first kisses, that’s a terrible attitude! While they can be awkward, they are also full of opportunity and potential. They can be the first time you have a chance to test your chemistry with someone and then can tell you so much about your date. Avoiding a kiss is really quite a shame. Besides, kissing is *fun*.
I agree with Ginger. Last chance. Sounds like maybe he was just treading lately. Who knows, he may be all over you this time since you’ve sort of indicated your interest.
Heh, sort of but then again not. Well, I hope he’s not all over me really. I mean, just a smooch would be good in my book. We shall see.
Hey, it could have been worse, the date could have ended with a high five instead.
That would actually be worse than the end of date handshake. Wow.
OMG!! I have to go watch the debate at this chick’s house but I’ll be back to comment.
Do not panic. Please proceed directly to the next entry. Dude can take a hint, at least.
Dr. Jenn, first kisses are the best kisses ever in my opinion, because they make things real
Catherinette Singleton, but what if you could get a kiss AND a high-five?? Most awesome goodbye ever I think..
I think a high five might be a deal breaker. Unless it was like an inside joke. Just sayin’.