Comments on: Indecision http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/ Dating losers so you don't have to! Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:38:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: dadshouse http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-514 dadshouse Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:28:54 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-514 Wow, that's a tough one. I handle it a little differently on my blog, where my face and name are out there for everyone to see. I tend not to give details on relationships I am currently in, unless it won't upset the preson or the relationship. That's why most of my dating/hookup stories are things that don't pan out. If something does pan out, I usually keep it under wraps to respect the privacy of the person I'm seeing. After we break up, I can spill the beans to my hearts content. (That said, I am decidedly single at the moment, so I'm not hiding any juicy stories! lol) What should you do? Go with your gut. Follow your intuition. Treat others (including this guy) with compassion. <strong><em>That's why my face and name aren't out there. So I can be honest without hurting people. I'm working on striking the balance with this one though.</strong></em> Wow, that’s a tough one. I handle it a little differently on my blog, where my face and name are out there for everyone to see. I tend not to give details on relationships I am currently in, unless it won’t upset the preson or the relationship. That’s why most of my dating/hookup stories are things that don’t pan out. If something does pan out, I usually keep it under wraps to respect the privacy of the person I’m seeing. After we break up, I can spill the beans to my hearts content.

(That said, I am decidedly single at the moment, so I’m not hiding any juicy stories! lol)

What should you do? Go with your gut. Follow your intuition. Treat others (including this guy) with compassion.

That’s why my face and name aren’t out there. So I can be honest without hurting people. I’m working on striking the balance with this one though.

]]> By: Catherinette Singleton http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Catherinette Singleton Thu, 31 Jul 2008 14:47:59 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-508 You just keep on keeping on and then call me and tell me everything that you decide not to post. If you decide not to post it. <strong><em>I'll call you. ;)</strong></em> You just keep on keeping on and then call me and tell me everything that you decide not to post. If you decide not to post it.

I’ll call you. ;)

]]> By: Dora http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-503 Dora Wed, 30 Jul 2008 23:31:31 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-503 WOW, could this be the one who will change the name of this blog? I hope so! Good for you Jane, wishing you all the best! <strong><em>Nah, I won't change the name. No matter how it all turns out.</em></strong> WOW, could this be the one who will change the name of this blog? I hope so! Good for you Jane, wishing you all the best!

Nah, I won’t change the name. No matter how it all turns out.

]]> By: Sunshine http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-502 Sunshine Wed, 30 Jul 2008 19:58:08 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-502 Try a different approach and be open with this one. It is okay to let him see you through the good, the bad and the ugly days. It will be okay... take the risk... remember the should of's, would of's, could of's get you if you don't... good luck <strong><em>He has access to all of these archives. He can see me at just about my worst if he chooses and there's not much I can do about that. ;)</strong></em> Try a different approach and be open with this one. It is okay to let him see you through the good, the bad and the ugly days. It will be okay… take the risk… remember the should of’s, would of’s, could of’s get you if you don’t… good luck

He has access to all of these archives. He can see me at just about my worst if he chooses and there’s not much I can do about that. ;)

]]> By: OneManThreeKids http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-501 OneManThreeKids Wed, 30 Jul 2008 19:08:52 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-501 I agree with Newmie... keep doing what you are doing as it obviously attracted him in the first place. I just hope he doesn't have to read your blog to understand where he truly stands with you. <strong><em>Trust me, he knows more about where he stands than you do. I'm good like that.</strong></em> I agree with Newmie… keep doing what you are doing as it obviously attracted him in the first place. I just hope he doesn’t have to read your blog to understand where he truly stands with you.

Trust me, he knows more about where he stands than you do. I’m good like that.

]]> By: Newmie http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-497 Newmie Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:52:22 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-497 Hmmm...I know how you feel since some of my friend/readers have given me some sharp words for things I have written on my blog. My vote, for what it's worth...do what you feel comfortable doing. As a reader of your blog, this dude should know you will share things/overanalyze shit he does, etc. Most guys don't have their pros and cons staring them in the face in black and white so perhaps this is a good learning experience for you both. Go with your gut. <strong><em>Stupid gut. It has a lot to say about this too. Wish it would take a rest down there!</strong></em> Hmmm…I know how you feel since some of my friend/readers have given me some sharp words for things I have written on my blog. My vote, for what it’s worth…do what you feel comfortable doing.

As a reader of your blog, this dude should know you will share things/overanalyze shit he does, etc. Most guys don’t have their pros and cons staring them in the face in black and white so perhaps this is a good learning experience for you both.

Go with your gut.

Stupid gut. It has a lot to say about this too. Wish it would take a rest down there!

]]> By: ThatOneGirl http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-496 ThatOneGirl Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:46:19 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-496 How does this new boy stack up against the classics? Mr. Big? The Friend? Even Asian Grocery Guy? What are we looking at here? By the way, please don't change your writing. I love your blog! <strong><em>Need some time to analyze, but at first blush? AGG was a kind of a freak. Beat hands down. The Friend wants nothing to do with me in that way. Also beat. Mr. Big doesn't like to sleep over, touch in public, talk on the phone, commit, or have feelings. I'm thinking he's not going to stack up. Still, need time to know for sure. Ask me next week. ;)</strong></em> How does this new boy stack up against the classics? Mr. Big? The Friend? Even Asian Grocery Guy? What are we looking at here?

By the way, please don’t change your writing. I love your blog!

Need some time to analyze, but at first blush? AGG was a kind of a freak. Beat hands down. The Friend wants nothing to do with me in that way. Also beat. Mr. Big doesn’t like to sleep over, touch in public, talk on the phone, commit, or have feelings. I’m thinking he’s not going to stack up.

Still, need time to know for sure. Ask me next week. ;)

]]> By: QTMama http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-495 QTMama Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:05:04 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-495 *dancing around happily* *dancing around happily*

]]> By: QTMama http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-494 QTMama Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:56:15 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-494 Carrie rocks. She is right. COMPLETELY. And if it weren't for your blog, you'd never have met the best man you've known in a long time. So don't let one reader, this new Mr. Rocks, change your writing. :) Just my two cents. Although I believe I may have heard that from you once ... Hmmm <strong><em>Why is it every shred of advice I give you eventually comes back to bite me in the ass? Positivity it is. And I'll get you one of these days. ;)</strong></em> Carrie rocks. She is right. COMPLETELY. And if it weren’t for your blog, you’d never have met the best man you’ve known in a long time. So don’t let one reader, this new Mr. Rocks, change your writing. :) Just my two cents. Although I believe I may have heard that from you once … Hmmm

Why is it every shred of advice I give you eventually comes back to bite me in the ass? Positivity it is. And I’ll get you one of these days. ;)

]]> By: Carrie http://www.onedatewonderland.com/2008/07/30/indecision/comment-page-1/#comment-493 Carrie Wed, 30 Jul 2008 11:44:46 +0000 http://www.onedatewonderland.com/?p=122#comment-493 Perhaps you could view this as a lovely opportunity instead of an awkward impasse: If things go well and you blog glowing comments, this guy's ego will be stroked, and he'll be encouraged to continue with the good behavior. If things go bad.........well, then perhaps he'll learn the error of his ways......or at least be shamed into never reading your blog again, for the truth hurts! <strong><em>Awwww, you know what? I've been talking to him for days and can't find fault other than the situational stuff of this. He deserves the ego stroke, trust me.</strong></em> Perhaps you could view this as a lovely opportunity instead of an awkward impasse:

If things go well and you blog glowing comments, this guy’s ego will be stroked, and he’ll be encouraged to continue with the good behavior.

If things go bad………well, then perhaps he’ll learn the error of his ways……or at least be shamed into never reading your blog again, for the truth hurts!

Awwww, you know what? I’ve been talking to him for days and can’t find fault other than the situational stuff of this. He deserves the ego stroke, trust me.

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