Comments on: The Friend Strikes Again

By: AL

AL — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 06:32:58 +0000

My response is going to be very similar to Catherinette’s. It’s not the greatest solution because you’re putting yourself at risk (in a few different ways). But…if you want to know the answer, the truth? Get drunk with your buddy. The truth will come of it.

He doesn’t drink much actually. And hearing him say he doesn’t want me when I’m drunk will lower my filters and make me do something I’ll regret. Better just not to have to hear that.

By: LenaB

LenaB — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 21:56:15 +0000

I had a friend who was doing this – with him, it was a possessive thing. He liked touching me, physically, especially when we were out in clubs or bars or at dinner. It screamed “she’s not single!” loud and clear to all the other men in the room. We had to have a talk about that.

Why was he getting possessive of a woman who he didn’t possess???

By: Catherinette Singleton

Catherinette Singleton — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 15:02:58 +0000

Oh, honey, all you need to do is have a bottle of wine with him. Then, when you’re through you say: The moon is full, the bottle is empty, and I’ve always wondered what you’d be like.

Then you make your move and scale him like a ladder. I have faith in your abilities.

I once got a speech on how he’s not a sexual person. To be honest, I kind of ruled him out in that moment. Every oncein a while, I forget though. Usually when he’s touching me.

By: Kate Savage

Kate Savage — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 07:52:37 +0000

I’ve been caught in the effing gray area, and in Canada, the effing grey area, too.

Men aren’t generally shy about what they want, is what I have decided. So, if he doesn’t make it abundantly clear that what he wants/adores/worships is me, then I’ll just be over here pretending to busy.

I pretend to be unaffected by it and go on about the business of being just friends. Does that count?

By: Carrie

Carrie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 02:05:35 +0000

No clue what you should do. I’ve been there, though, and like you – I tend to obsess. Sigh. It’s a vicious cycle!

I’ll let it go in a week or so. It’s just….. weird.

By: Sunshine

Sunshine — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 23:41:26 +0000

Do nothing but continue to be his friend.. regardless of the touchy feely stuff.. once you guys cross the line the friendship is gone and it becomes awkward… no more touchy feely stuff. Your heart is speaking to you and your getting caught up in the moment… keep the friend ( another story all to well for me… ..

I’m not getting too caught up, no worries. I am his friend as I have been for over a year now. That’s all I’ve ever done.

By: teri

teri — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 20:13:25 +0000

I’m in the same situation with a guy. I think they believe that since you are friends they can be touching/feely and there are no strings or something. I’m ALWAYS completely baffled by this behavior.

It sends a completely weird message, right?

By: QTMama

QTMama — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 18:26:29 +0000

Stop obsessing. Do nothing. And I’m going to give you something that you once gave to me: There is NO GRAY AREA’s. Black and White baby. Just black and white. Do nothing, he’s almost a zombie.

SO not the same thing. The Friend will never be dead to me. He’s one of my closest friends.

By: Catherinette Singleton

Catherinette Singleton — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 17:20:56 +0000

Knock boots. It’s the only possible solution.

Gladly would…. if only he would agree.