It’s a small world after all
Any experienced One Date Wonder has experienced a certain shrinking of the dating pool at some point. Especially online. Suddenly someone you’ve already rejected comes back asking for date like they’ve never seen you. You start to recognize folks from other places. Or, most notably in my case, a man you had a one night stand one date with starts to recommend you to his friends. That’s right, my past indiscretions are coming back to haunt me.
Now to be fair the one night stand date in question is actually a pretty thoughtful guy. He was as respectful as a one night stand fellow one date wonder can be. And I don’t get some creepy lying vibe off of him. In fact, the only reason we did not continue on to see each other again was that it came out he was only looking for sex something casual while I wanted something more. We parted ways amicably after I explained that I wasn’t going to be able to give him what he was after.
So imagine my surprise when several months later I see him on a dating site where I’ve never seen him before. You can cue the singing of “It’s a Small World” here folks. I thought it was kind of funny actually, and was entirely unable to stop myself from emailing him to share my humor. I may have restrained myself had I not known he had already seen me. But I did know that. So off I went emailing and snickering along my merry way.
What happened next was a rather fun email exchange… very light hearted, easy going, reminding me of how easily we got along the one time we did go out. I asked him if he had changed what he was looking for. He said he had no idea what he was looking for. So I promptly decided that he was being shifted into the friend zone and firmly told him so. No reason to repeat a one night stand one date wonder, right? And that’s when it happened. He recommended that I check out his friend.
And that, my dear friends, is when you know your dating pool has shrunk a little too far. When your one night stand recommends his friend as relationship material.
(For the record, he has promised not to admit how we met. Which means, of course, that I am dumb enough to allow the set up. You knew I would, right? It’s all in the name of entertainment, dear readers. I do it for you.)
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I have been on and off many times form the dating sites and at one time one of the guys I had a date with and he wanted more but just was not happening for me contacted me a year later and said ” OH I see your back on here like the rest of us… welcome to the internet dating club for lifers”… that’s enough to make me become a nun…. well, maybe not…
Never admit defeat! (Besides, how sad is it that he monitors new arrivals that closely? A little sad, that’s what.)
In my book, this is totally ok. He’s a great guy who you clicked with… stands to reason that there could be some great potential in one of his friends. Good luck!
Thanks. Now he just has to follow through…
Can’t wait to hear how the set-up goes!!
Me either!
I run into the exact same guys on all the dating websites. I think it’s because where I live there is no good place to actually go out and meet people. Good luck with the set-up!
I don’t do repeats. If someone I ran into before is still there? I just click away. It’s a firm rule.
Well. I do hope this set up goes better than the last one! *giggle*
I plan to stay sober on the first date, so here’s hoping!
Your journey keeps me laughing. I’d be lost if my life was a tenth as interesting as yours.
I am so glad I am not the only one with a friend zone.
We all have a friend zone. I just usually don’t tell people when I file them away there.