The Stalker
Don’t get too up in arms on me now, I’m not going to talk about a real stalker. By “the stalker” I mean that guy who will not accept waning communication. The one who comes on too strong from the get go and will not let up. The one who follows up an unanswered voice mail with a text message and then an email a few hours after leaving it. That guy. I know you’ve met him. He is the stalker.
I have one now. It is partly my fault, as most of these situations tend to be. The attention was flattering at first. The early communication was sweet. The flattery floored me. Some women are tragically easy that way. I am one of them. There was cuddling and compliments and I did not discourage the stalker from his trade.
But after we slept together (ooops), it was just all too much. The constant assurances that he wanted a meaningful relationship. The sad little “call me”s in every email. Clearly I should not have gotten in bed with him. (Although in my defense a bit, most men do not get stalkerish after the sex. They get…. well…. gone. Because they got what they wanted and will only come back if they think there is more to be had.) So now the stalker can’t just be dropped like a hot potato because of the whole complicated sex mess. So I am trying to back him off a bit.
But the stalker, he just keeps coming. Emails, text messages, voice mails…. and the horrid “I miss you”s. Dude, we just haven’t known each other that long. Have a little self respect. With each passing day, the stalker does himself more damage and weakens my resolve to ease him down slowly (without more sex, tyvm!). I am smothered and feel the urge to run.
Last night’s text message merely said “meow”. WTF???
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Meow? Ah you’re now in the stalker sisterhood! It only gets weirder as it goes on… at least he hasn’t sent you the naked photos yet!
omg! I’am in the same situation! Only iam a guy and this girl is off her rocker! I told her from the get go that i have an ex that i just broke up with a month ago but might get back together with her and iam still in love with her, and i got drunk one night and one thing led to another, and now i have a stalker who has threaten to find my ex and tell her what we did, then apologizes and asks to hang out all through text, today she she texted me “if u care i got hit by a car doing 45 and and i have 4 cracked ribs and they had to glue my head together” I know thats a lie, its like shes trying to guilt me into like’n her! And now im worried she will find my ex and tell her about the mistake and make up other shit!
Yeah, not quite the same thing. The guy here wasn’t really psycho, just uber-clingy. But! The same philosophy applies. Don’t poke the bear. Stop responding to this woman. And honestly, if you’re trying to get back together with someone, just be honest with her. Tell her you saw someone while you were apart and then the stalker chick can’t do you any damage. Honesty really is the best policy here.